oare you worried that you might be too black for him?otoo black? what dat? i suppose i can come off as far more passionate about race issues in comparison to most but i'm not sure that's a deal breaker...at least it shouldn't be. the reality is, i'd be just as passionate about cultural issues if i were with a black dude and frankly, i've dated quite a few of them that i was "too black" for so black or white, i'm too much for most men.
i'm passionate. i feel and i feel strongly...period. add that to the fact that i'm stubborn as hell (taurean here) and you get one bullheaded gal. and before you go there, no, i'm not talking "strong black woman" as that tends to be interpreted as "attitude" these days. instead, i'm simply a woman who knows what her likes and dislikes are and when asked, will tell you about them. but that's beside the point. i mean, what if he's "too white" for me?
fortunately, i've begun to realize that in the grand scheme of things, racial differences are petty and often get in the way of our developing close personal relationships. in college for example, my roommate and i were very close and shared common interests...as long as we were in the dorm. once we stepped foot outside our room, it's as if we were strangers. we didn't eat together or go to the same parties. i didn't know her friends, she didn't know mine.
looking back, i think our inability to connect in the real world had to do with the fact that in a way, we failed to share ourselves completely. with my black girlfriends i don't hold back. there's no topic that i have to tip-toe around. there's no subject that is taboo because the assumption from day one is that we're more alike than we are different. the same can't always be said for white women.
my point is, i want to be myself around him and he around me. i don't want to hold back. if i have a thought that is pro-black, ultra-liberal, anti-guns, pro-PETA...i want to know that i can unabatedly share my thoughts and opinions without fear of pushing him away. after all, i'm looking for a best friend and how can that happen if i avoid being "too much" of me?
@anonymous,
ReplyDeleteawwh, you're the first to sign my blog and like a john in the night, i don't even know your name.
you said, "many 'pro-black militant' females date white." where the hell are you getting your stats? you so pulled that one out of your crack and based on the fact that you've made such a substantial leap, part of me doesn't want to engage.
you don't have to agree with me but you're above statement shows just how unreasonable you are. where we all have our ideals, it's folks like yourself who DO indeed hate themselves and others who are the problem. see us rational folk realize that when two people love and care about one another, their age, colors, genders and/or stations in life don't mean a hill of beans in this world so frankly anonymous, i don't give a damn.
oh yeah, about the "ambiguous children?!" line, i have to thank you because it's inspired my next blog :)